This week, I have been terrible at self-care. But I didn’t realize how bad it was until my husband was running late for dinner.
I was waiting for him to finish up something, so he could watch Baby Girl and I could start dinner. And I kept waiting. And kept waiting…
I blew up at him. He apologized, but he did question the virulence of my reaction. So, I thought about it.
- I hadn’t had any water- just sodas and milk- for several days.
- I hadn’t been getting very good sleep, because Baby Girl was waking up in the middle of the night.
- I hadn’t done much of anything fun since we got home from vacation.
- I hadn’t kept up with my learning programs (one, a general trivia app and the other a language app.)
- I’d been the primary caretaker of Baby Girl since we got back, with very little break other than sleeping and naps.
I took stock of all of this and tried to think of ways to remedy it.
The first one was super easy – I have a Water Consumption Tracker in my planner; I just hadn’t been using my planner at all since vacation. I may have gotten a little too lax on vacation.
The second was a bit more difficult, but I am tracking how much sleep I get at night and napping when she naps if I get less than 6 hours of sleep. my husband has helped with this by picking up some of the chores when needed.
The third happened a bit by accident. I made a rather spectacular dinner and remembered how nice it is to cook, not just for sustenance, but because I want to. I have also started working on Halloween decorations! I love Halloween, so it’s extra exciting for me! I tried to play one of my video games, but it keeps crashing. Stressing myself out with it is not self-care.
I resumed my learning apps. Again, easy – I just had to think to do it.
Last, I asked for my husband’s help in watching Baby Girl. He’s watching her right now while I write this, in fact.
There you have it. If you or those around you are noticing behavior changes in you, take a moment to take stock of your self-care routine. Ask yourself the following:
- Has something changed in my stress-levels? (Do I need more self-care?)
- Has something changed in my self-care activities? (Are there things I’ve been doing less?)
- What can I do to even out the amount of stress in my life with the time and effort I put into self-care? (How do I make things more equal?)
This can be remembered thusly: More – Less – Equal.